When I started uni, I would always doubt myself and doubt what I am capable of. I would always compare myself to others which had me always questioning everything I did. As someone who can be thrown of easily, it’s easier for me to want to give up, but I knew this would not be an option as I want to work hard to become successful and be brilliant at what I do. I also know knowledge is power and believe me I like learning- being persistent and consistent made such a difference and actually showed me how crucial this can be.. today I got my results and I am so happy and proud of myself, all that doubting and all that second guessing for what? I passed and I got some excellent feedback.
When people tell you to be persistent or consistent it’s not something that looks good on a CV (although it can), it actually gives you positive outcomes and allows you to overcome fears..
Stay FOCUSED, Be PERSISTENT & CONSISTENT ✨✨
I have not been feeling myself lately and I have been feeling more on the ‘downside’, there are so many reasons to be grateful and happy but It can just take one little thing to knock you off and make you feel unhappy again, It can take one comment to send your head into ‘overdrive’ and it can take one action to make you feel better. Sometimes we just have to allow situations to make us feel how they are making us feel in order to overcome and get stronger. I try to stay positive but I do have days when I feel down and not myself but it’s all about acceptance as I have spoke about in one of my previous blogs and appreciating the situation you are in, whether that be good or bad. When I feel like this I try to picture myself in a happier place and put my mind in a good space (easier said then done of course) but atleast then you still have an ounce of positivite energy manifesting, rather than pure negativity.. Always remember that we are only human and we can only deal with things according to how we feel, don’t beat yourself up or put yourself down if sometimes you don’t act accordingly or how ‘we should’ be acting, just make sure if your down, you get back up because “Failure lies not in falling down, failure lies in not getting up”.✨✨
In life there needs to be a balance and that is in every situation. If you want to eat a lot of foods that are not good for you, then you need to make sure you are eating a lot of healthy foods as well to balance it out or even if you drink a lot of alcohol when you meet up with friends for occasions then you need to make sure your drinking water to cleanse yourself and to have that balance. Doing too much of anything isn’t good, even the things we think are ‘good for us’. For instance drinking too much water can drown your brain, although water is actually something we need, too much can be bad. If you are someone who likes to go out and have fun with your friends, that is completely fine as long as it does not interrupt or interfere with work or studies, then go ahead and party just have that balance (You cant have all play & no work). If you love to spend money (Like myself),then make sure your saving as well as spending because again there needs to be a balance, that means maybe not spend as much and budget yourself- say “I will save this much & spend this much” and you will see a change. So sometimes it is not about cutting things out, it’s simply about having that BALANCE!
Self love is the best kind of love there is and although It took me a while to appreciate myself and accept all my flaws that I was not entirely happy with I can honestly say I am much happier now I have learned to love myself. Don’t get me wrong there are days when I still question things or still compare myself to others or situations they are in but it’s about erasing them thoughts and think about who you want to be as the best version of you. Self love does not mean looking in the mirror and saying “I’m pretty or “I look good” (although this helps) it’s about accepting and appreciating yourself regardless of any flaws. Knowing your self worth comes from ‘ self Love’ and I believe everyone who practices this will be in a much better and happier place. Don’t seek to others for love. Love yourself first because if you can not love yourself, how will anyone else love or appreciate you. I know at times everyone gets down and puts pressure on themselves to look better, feel better and be better but just remember that no-one is perfect and everyone is on different journeys in life so just except yourself and Love you for you!
Life is such a funny thing. You can be here one minute then you could be gone. As harsh as that sounds, its reality and the more people start understanding this, the more people would learn to appreciate every single day whether that be good or bad. We need to remember that ‘TIME WAITS FOR NOBODY’ and when it’s our time to go it’s our time to go! So why sit around and waste time when we realistically we do not know how much time we actually have.
Do not get me wrong I’m guilty for this exact thing but lately I have been thinking and a close friend lost someone close to her and it really got me thinking about life and the time we have here and what we actually do with it. There’s no point saying “I’ll do that tomorrow” or “That can wait”, when we can do it now and make sure we enjoy and get the most out of every single day. Sometimes we get distracted or demotivated but it’s just about having the ability to say “I’m going to make the most out of today” and actually doing it.
So even if you are tired or ‘can not be bothered’ to do something, just remember there is someone wishing they had the choice to make decisions to even get things done or even someone who is not with us anymore and would of love to do that exact thing and maybe we would appreciate the time we have a little more and stop wasting time!
Lately I haven’t been feeling myself and although it may seem I’m okay to the world so many things have been bothering me lately. I’m not going to sit and list things but I will say these situations have made me see life in a whole new perspective. For ages I would question myself or question what is happening, but as I have mentioned in my previous blogs, “we have to accept what is happening to us at good or bad times”. Without the bad, how would we appreciate good? & without good how would we know what ‘bad’ really was?
As you all know I like to stay positive and I am only human so days I do feel down and I don’t always think positively in the first instance, but I will always bring my thoughts back to positivity because that’s the only thing I want out of life – A Positive one!
Sometimes it’s easy for others to assume everything is okay and everything is going so well, but if that’s what you portray, that is what will be perceived & that is the energy you will be attracting to yourself. So sometimes it’s best to put on that smile and keep moving, because the more we give time to negative energy, the more negative energy we attract.
Just stay focused and remember.. “Positive Thoughts, bring Positive outcomes”.
I have realised that mo matter how much you give a person or how much you try and be there for a person, if that person is not on the same page then that friendship/relationship/ situationship will never work. To say “give up”is a negative way to see things but putting energy into something that is not benefiting you is pointless and all that energy may aswell be used on bettering yourself or working on developing a better version of you.
Why do we waste so much time on pointless things? But we continue to procrastinate when it comes to doing things for OURSELVES.
Why do we feel the need to concentrate more on others rather than ourselves?
concentrate on what YOU have to offer and not on what others have or want to achieve.
Remember! YOU are number one & YOU matter first. So before anything else, make sure you INVEST time & energy into yourself!