Speaking out 

Sometimes what we feel on the inside is not entirely what we show on the outside. As humans we are so good at masking how we really feel and disguising true feelings we may be feeling. As I have gotten older I have realised that people find it easier to cover up how they are feeling, rather than expressing or sharing a problem with a friend or loved one and from this only comes more problems. We start to self harm in the sense we torture ourselves and we do not even realise it. Rather than express how we feel (which always helps sharing and discussing your problems) we as individuals would rather suffer in silence and makes the problem become more intense. I believe a lot of this has to do with pride and feeling ashamed, maybe I am wrong but I have evaluated these situations quite frequently recently and in most cases people are embarrassed or ashamed that they are the only ones feeling the way they are, when in reality, your neighbour, friend, cousin or sister is usually experiencing something very similar and from just sharing and discussing your problems, you could really be a shoulder to cry on for one another or even think of ways to deal with what you are feeling or facing at that specific time.  So the next time you feel down or just need to get something off your chest, remember to SPEAK OUT! 

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Acceptance

Acceptance can make a process of dealing with something you are facing so much easier. Whether that be grieving the loss of a loved one or even accepting you’ve lost something you treasured. Accepting it will not take the pain away but it will help you understand and appreciate what you are going through is a battle and with the right positive attitude you can overcome anything. Once you have understood and accepted this, you will begin to understand that what you are facing has been given to you to Mould you into the person you can and will be and we need to remember we are NEVER given anything we can not deal handle. Over the years I have found it hard myself to accept certain things I was faced with & I realised it just made the whole process so much worse as I was fighting myself and the truth, I noticed once I accepted things I could not change physically, I began to understand and appreciate these things as they were moulding me into the person I am today and for that I am very grateful. If we don not go through hardship, how will we ever accept the positive and good we receive in life? How will we know that that specific feeling is controlled by ourselves and ourselves only as ‘YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS. So next time you face something you think you can’t handle or get through. Remember, once we accept these things, everything will become a lot easier & we are NEVER given nothing we can not handle. 

Showing Gratitude

Showing gratitude is one of the most rewarding things I believe you can do. It could be being grateful for the littlest thing to the biggest thing and you will see more blessings come your way. Being grateful is not just saying ‘Thank-you’, it’s actually believing and feeling how grateful you are for something you have received. Every single day there is so much to be grateful for and as humans, we forget how important it is to be thankful and grateful for these things. It could even be finding something you lost or even arriving early for something, just by showing that little bit of gratitude could bring you more reasons to be thankful through-out the day and your life. Even something on the bigger scale like passing an exam or graduating, just being thankful for these things will bring you more blessings. I use to be a very ungrateful person, it was never intentional but I just did not realise how important it was to be thankful and show gratitude and I realised I wasn’t completely happy as a person. It was a very hollow feeling and I was constantly feeling like I wanted more. Now as I appreciate all the little things in life I realise how it can make a BIG difference.

Loyalty

How do you perceive loyalty? What does loyalty mean to you? In life we come across people and situations that will help us know how we trust or how loyal we/they are. You can give somebody the world, yet they would give you nothing. You can give somebody nothing and yet they would give you the world. Loyalty can come in so many different forms but it is always taken in one way. Your either loyal or your not.  Being loyal does not mean how you act in-front of me or how much you express your commitment to me as an individual, its knowing that no matter what whether in my presence or not, you will always have my back and act and say the exact same things you would do or say with me there. People get so comfortable and so used to a person being around or even just being there for them, their loyalty starts to fade and this all comes with ‘comfortability’.

So many people take LOYAL people for granted and yet they question why an individual chooses to change their attitude towards them. So many people think LOYAL people will always be around for them no matter, but are shocked when the person decides enough is enough. If you have a loyal person you take for granted, you need to ask yourself; What am I lacking as a person, that I feel the need to loose something or someone good? or even feel the need make someone question their own loyalty?

Why do people in life care more about how they look on social media or to random people rather than how they are perceived to the ones that really matter?  I will never understand this statement and I will fail to realise why people are more loyal to individuals they barely know, but have no problem showing no loyalty to the ones who have always been by their side. It really confuses me how we as humans process things at times.

Someones’s loyalty should not be questioned by what they tell you, but for what they show you when you are not around.

 

 

Planning Things Out

Everyday is a new day to start fresh and take on a new challenge or maybe even face challenges that you may not have faced yet. Planning things out will always be a required tool to achieving a goal and making sure the correct steps are taken in order to get where you want to be. I always find myself procrastinating about situations and often find myself putting things off. I have sat and evaluated these times and I have come to realise that this type of outcome always occurs when I have not pre-planned and have not thought out what I actually want to do. In every situation planning is required, even going to the Supermarket; you plan your process, you do not just float and go with the flow, You know you need to get dressed and get your shopping list, drive your car and go to the supermarket. Just by simple planning things seem to work on your side and it is the same for everyday life and planning for our futures. We know as individuals where we want to go and what we want to achieve, but yet we fail the simple process of planning, which then causes things to not steer in the direction we expected or not work in the time frame we had planned for. Without planning we do not work towards achieving something in a certain time, so there is no rush or hurry to get things done, IT JUST HAPPENS WHEN IT HAPPENS.

Negative People

Have you ever been around such a negative force that it actually drains the life out of you? Recently I have been in so many situations where my positive attitude has been tested and the question was whether I was going to allow this negativity to steer me in the wrong direction. Sometimes you have to actually sit back and think, Is this worth it? Are they worth it?. The answer is simple. NO. Under no circumstance should you allow yourself to stoop to others peoples levels because of their own faults and insecurities. I am one person who has given a negative reaction, but where did that get me? No where and in the end I was the one left feeling hurt, disappointed and challenged which were not good feelings. These type of people feed of your positivity and will do anything in their stride to knock you down, but do not fall, do not even retaliate, This is what they want and this type of reaction is exactly what they feed off. The next time somebody wants to be negative in any form of way, give them back nothing but positivity, (I am still learning myself how to do this at times), but I promise you one thing, I have done it and it works and you will feel so good within yourself, because we were not put on this earth too feed people and their negative energy’s.

Life

Have you ever sat and wondered, why you were put on this Earth? What is your purpose? because everybody has one. What are you doing to make this world a better place?. For years I have battled with myself about who I really am, what I want to be and why I was actually put here. What is my purpose? Now whether I know the complete correct answer, I know one thing is for sure, one of my main missions was to impact people in a positive way.

For years friends and family have told me how positive I am and how much I have a positive impact on their lives when I am giving advice or offering a helping hand and for years I never payed attention to this, I never actually listened, which was one of my biggest downfalls. I was always someone who had so much to say in every situation, but I also realised I was someone who would always try and see the positive side from in everything. Getting older is about developing, transforming and creating a better version of you and I can honestly say I am more than thankful I realised one of my missions later on in life (being now) because I have so much more knowledge and so much more experiences to share with you. Without these situations I would not be able to and I probably would not be writing this blog today. So what is your purpose?

Everybody has a purpose in life, You just need to find yours and master it!